Refined Perspectives – Coaching For Success in Life and Business

Do you struggle with decisions?  Do you find it hard to get over things?  Do you find yourself always looking for ways to move on when bad things happen to you?

Some people have the enviable ability to jut “let things go” and move on with their lives.  Whether the boss tells them that they didn’t get a promotion or their best friend backs out of big vacation plans, or they get a bad hair cut, they just seem to be able to put it all into perspective and move on.  But many more people let these things churn around inside them and never seem to be able to get past it.  They get bitter and angry and these things ultimately hold them back from achieving their goals.

As life seems to knock us down and we keep struggling to get up, we start to lose touch with ourselves and how we truly feel about things.  We are busy focusing on the bad things and we stop listening to our hearts voice, because we feel it will lead to more disappointment.  We must never stop trusting our own instincts and so from time-to-time it is a good idea to do a little exercise called “reveal you heart’s wisdom”.

This tool helps you move on from anything significant or get some insight into where you are ‘at’ emotionally. This tool was passed on to me from Harley Storey a coach from Australia.  Here is how it works:

Set aside some quiet time to write a letter that no one will read, but will help you to reveal your hearts messages and wisdom.

1.  Write at the top of the page the question you want an answer to, such as “How do really I
feel about Sam?” or “How do I feel about my job”

2.  Write down all the things you wish you could say, what you wished you could’ve said, etc –
basically getting it all out.  Include all the memories – positive and negative – you can remember.
Try not to analyze what you are writing – just let it flow from the heart. Write without judgment – just put down whatever comes to your mind – analyze it later.

3.  When you have finished, leave it for a few hours before reading it, or better still sleep on it.

4.  As you read over what you have written, highlight or underline anything that strikes you as interesting, unusual or significant.  These are the messages and the wisdom your heart is bringing through to you. Think about what these messages are, and what wisdom your heart is revealing to you.

When the time is right, ask yourself what you would like to do with the letter? Put it in a keepsake box, place in a bottle and let it go in the ocean, burn it, bury it or even send it.

This exercise should help you work through issues that have no real resolution except to get over them.  Since so much of life is like that I find this is a great way to be able to move on in spite of feeling injured or mad.  The negative emotions from things we can’t change serve only to hurt us, and if we don’t find a positive outlet for them they hold us back.

Don’t be held back by things you can’t get over.  Keep looking ahead.